I was recently looking through photos on my phone, whilst listening to a podcast about authenticity, and I reached the photos of me speaking recently at Professional Beauty. And whilst I’m always be honest and true, I was suddenly hit with the memory of seeing these photos for the first time before sharing them... So, honestly…? One of the first things I noticed were my legs and how you could see they were different.
Yet, here I was, standing up on stage speaking at an event, something I thought I would never have the confidence to achieve. But, something I did achieve, had huge positive feedback for, and had an absolute blast! And, my first thought of seeing this photo showing something I was so incredibly proud to achieve? How my legs looked. When you put it like that, ridiculous right?!
I wanted to share this as it’s natural for us to have such thoughts. We’re human, it happens all the freakin’ time! Sometimes, without us even really being aware (did you know 95% of our thoughts are subconscious - thoughts we aren’t fully aware of).
Thankfully, having worked on mindset, I let this thought go fairly quickly. I saw it for what it was. Then allowed myself to realise that it’s me! And actually, despite how awesome it would be to have two good legs and wear any shoes I wanted, I’m truly happy with me and what I’ve been given. I also realise, although I believe it’s best not to compare or judge ourselves on what we feel, that I am luckier than many.
So, if I can share anything here, I want you to know that it’s completely normal to have negative thoughts. Thoughts that may make us doubt ourselves, that may knock our confidence, that may judge us, make us feel ‘not good enough’, and so on. But, always ALWAYS see them as just thoughts. Don’t let your mind get carried away with the thought and start believing it has substance, it generally doesn’t. It’s a whole heap of baloney! Trust! I know I’ve been there in the past where I almost wasn’t aware of my thoughts, but I know looking back that they were clearly happening and then making me feel angry, sad, frustrated, all because I was feeding it and going along for the ride. I could’ve done exactly the same with this photo. I could’ve put my phone down, not shared the image and post, and got into a low mood. Easy as that. Crazy! Instead, I accepted, let it go, and felt god damn proud of myself for what I had achieved! Still buzzing in the goodness of it over here, can you tell?!
The podcast made me realise to share this too, as this is also real and true. It’s life!
The funny thing is, many people probably wouldn’t even notice my legs by looking at this photo. We often find that others don’t even notice our flaws. The bits that we see as maybe imperfect are what makes us, us! And actually I am completely comfortable with my quirks and flaws. Those are the bits that make us unique.
Have a happy day, and go love and accept every single part of yourself, flaws and all. You’re perfect imperfectness... Rock it!